Saturday, August 27, 2022
BOOK SUMMARY: SHEPHERDING A CHILD'S HEART - CHAPTER 6 - REWORKING YOUR GOALS
Friday, August 26, 2022
BOOK SUMMARY: SHEPHERDING A CHILD'S HEART - CHAPTER 5 - EXAMINGING YOUR GOALS
BIG IDEA: We may have well-intentioned goals that are actually unbiblical.
Thursday, August 25, 2022
BOOK SUMMARY: SHEPHERDING A CHILD'S HEART - CHAPTER 4 - YOU'RE IN CHARGE
BIG IDEA: Parental authority is assigned and derived from God for the purpose of helping children to properly relate to their Maker.
Confusion About Authority
Our culture does not like authority; neither being under it or exercising it. Children will suffer if parents don't know the nature and extent of their authority: where it comes from, on what grounds can they exercise it, is it absolute and whether it requires perfection.
Without a biblical understanding of authority we will follow the world's pattern and think authority over our children must be forced or given by their consent, rather that derived and assigned by God. When children are the decision makers we wrongly teach them about freedom and automony. Our freedom is found in obedience to God (Psalm 119:44-45).
Obedience from our children should not be seen as measure taken for our comfort and convenience but as our God-given assignment to help them live for and obey God.
Called To Be In Charge
God calls us to rule over our children. Thus, we are acting on behalf of God, much like an older sibling telling a young sibling, "Mom says you gotta clean up your room." We are not to shape our children according to our desires, but on God's desires. This is the angle we must pursue all the time in our parenting.
Abraham was chosen by God. One of his tasks was to direct his children and future generations to obey the Lord (See Genesis 18:19).
Deuteronomy 6:2 reminds us that the Israelites and their descendants were to fear the Lord by keeping His decrees. Parenting must keep this in mind. So speaking of God and His Word is to take place in various parts of the day; sleeping, rising, walking, etc. This is accomplished through God's chosen agent--the parent (see also Ephesians 6:4).
As parents we must not let our preferences or anger or sin ruin the process of parenting as God's agents. We must repent of our sin and ask God to forgive us as we seek to do this rightly before God--just as we expect and lead our children to do. If you are angry that your children are not obeying you then it shows them that the problem is between you and them NOT them and God. Their rebellion against you is first and foremost rebellion against God.
Called To Obedience
1. Confidence to Act - When you realize that your authority is from God you won't have to second guess yourself. You don't need permission from your child to parent them.
2. A Mandate to Act - This is not optional. It is a command. To not do what God says to do is sin. How do we expect our children to obey God if we do not? Some parents act as advisers or suggestion makers leading their children to think that they are the decision makers. ie, "What do you want for breakfast? What do you want to do today? What do you want to wear?" Children brought up this way, without parental leading begin to think they are their own boss and can terrorize the home when they get older. Some argue that children must learn to make good decisions--true! But they learn to make good decisions by watching their parents make good decisions, not by being the ruler of the home.
Parenting Defined
God has called us to do more than being providers of food, shelter and clothing. We are more than care-providers. It's not a task based on convenience of schedule. The training is happening all the time. It's just a matter of whether it's good or bad.
To parent effectively you must know them and what makes them tick.
1. Clear Objectives - Do we know our children's strengths and weaknesses? Do we have goals to help their weaknesses? Do we have a plan to encourage their strengths? Short-term, long-term goals? Do we have a plan to help shape their heart?
Correction and shepherding should not be a by-product of public embarrassment or personal frustration.
Parenting includes pointing our children to the grace and mercy of God in Christ's saving work.
2. Humility In Your Task - You are God's representative to your child. You are an ambassador. We are to correct our children by God's command. This task means more than correction. It includes setting an example, even asking for forgiveness of them when you have not parented correctly. If you speak to them in unholy anger you must humbly seek forgiveness from God and your child. This helps them to see that you are not serving your agenda but God's. They are more apt to follow you when they see that you are trying to rightly relate to God as well.
3. No Place For Anger - Discipline and correction are not the time to display raw and uncontrolled anger. We do not want them to learn the fear of man but the fear of God. James 1:19-20 reminds us to be slow to anger because it does not produce the righteous life that God desires.
4. Benefits to the Child - When parents correct and lead based on God's authority then the child begins to see this. God willing, they will learn to accept correction from God. We aren't perfect, but God is. It's His correction we want them to be under.
Summary
We don't need to be timid in our parenting. Our authority is derived from God and we are commanded to parent in a godly way that leads our children to know and love God. Neither should be we overbearing. We are not the boss--God is. We are likewise sinners in need of grace and mercy. We want that shown to our children as well so that they'll come to salvation.
1. Discipline: Corrective, Not Punitive - The correction we provide our children needs to be focused on God as the offended party that way discipline/correction is seen as corrective not punitive.
2. Discipline: An Expression of Love - Proverbs 3:12 The Lord disciplines those He loves. There is no distinction between discipline and love. Discipline is an expression of love. Discipline should not be revenge. Discipline should not be done in anger or out of selfishness. That is an unbiblical view of marriage. Discipline is fatherly because it comes from God our Father. If we don't see ourselves as God's agents, then all of this will be missed in our parenting and we won't do it correctly.
You are harming the child and their soul when you use expressions like "I am fed up with you. You are making me mad" and other expressions that don't point them to God. They learn to fear you and not God. Any change in behavior will likely be man-centered versus being God-centered.
Disciplined children are a blessing (Proverbs 23:15-16, 24). But discipline should be done with a proper perspective, proper motives and proper methods. Parenting and correction should all come from God's Word. Discipline is restorative not punitive. We are helping them to be restored to God.
Monday, August 22, 2022
BOOK SUMMARY: SHEPHERDING A CHILD'S HEART - CHAPTER 3 - YOUR CHILD'S DEVELOPMENT - GODWARD ORIENTATION
Saturday, August 20, 2022
BOOK SUMMARY: SHEPHERDING A CHILD'S HEART - CHAPTER 2 - YOUR CHILD'S DEVELOPMENT - SHAPING INFLUENCES
BIG IDEA: The person your child becomes is the product of life experiences and how they interact with them. While shaping influences matter, we should not take an attitude of determinism towards them.
SIX SHAPING INFLUENCES
1. Structure of Family Life
Number of parents, birth order, relationship between children, traditional family, single parent, etc
2. Family Values
How does the family spend time? What upsets the family? What's important to the parents? How is money spent? Is God important? Is family life based on human tradition or the principles of the world...or around the person of Christ?
3. Family Roles
Who pays the bills? Are parents involved in each other's lives or in the lives of the kids? Who does what?
4. Family Conflict Resolution
How does the family communicate? Do they yell and scream? Do they walk away from problems? Do they use Biblical guidelines of confession, repentance, forgiveness, grace, mercy, etc? Do they listen to advice (Proverbs 12:15-16)?
5. Family Response to Failure
How is failure treated? With understanding? With encouragement? With belittling or shaming? Abuse?
6. Family History
Have there been deaths in the family? Was the family in poverty or well off? Was divorce a factor? Have there been health issues?
TWO MISTAKES PEOPLE MAKE IN REGARDS TO SHAPING INFLUENCES
1. Shaping influences are the ultimate determiner of how we'll end up
2. Shaping influence don't matter at all
Some parents place to much important on shaping influences believe their children ell end up perfect if they shelter then and keep them in a Christian bubble. This is determinism dressed up in religiosity. While you want to have godly shaping influences, children are not passive clay that can be molded. They have varying responses to these shaping influences. If your child knows and loves God they will response positively to godly shaping influences. If your child does not know and love God they may kick and rebel against such influences. Ultimately, your children are responsible for the way they respond to your parenting.
Determinism can lead to frustration later in life if your kids turn out bad even though you had godly influences. You expected a perfect child based on shaping influences but the truth is that the child must still respond properly to these influences. That's not guaranteed. Proverbs 4:23 reminds us that the issues of life come from the heart--even the heart of a child.
BOOK SUMMARY: GOD'S KINGDOM THROUGH GOD'S COVENANTS - CHAPTER 1 - THE IMPORTANCE OF COVENANTS IN GRASPING THE BIBLE'S STORY
From what I know this seems to be different than the dispensations touted in dispensationalism or the one covenant of grace in covenant theology.
Brian Rosner's definition of biblical theology: it's the theological interpretation of Scripture in and for the church. It proceeds with history and literal sensitivity and seeks to analyze and synthesize the Bible's teaching about God and his relations to the world on its own terms, maintaining sight of the Bible's overarching narrative and Christocentric focus.
Biblical theology must come before all other theology because you cannot properly do other theologies until you understand what the Bible is all about.
Systematic theology seeks to apply Scripture to all areas of life. Hence you cannot properly do systematic theology if you don't understand how all Scripture fits together. Systematic theology must be grounded in biblical theology.
Systematic theology aides us in our apologetics. So rightly understood, apologetics is a subset of systematic theology.
Biblical theology then is primarily a hermeneutical discipline and assists our systematic theology.
HERMENEUTICAL BASIS: BEING "BIBLICAL" IN OUR READING OF SCRIPTURE AND THEOLOGY
To properly interpret and apply Scripture and to be biblical in theology we must take seriously what Scripture claims to be and we must interpret Scripture in light of what it is: God's unfolding revelation across time.
The Scriptural Claim for Itself: Scripture's Self-Attestation
Scripture is God's Word written. It is the product of God's might action through the Word and by the Holy Spirit whereby human authors freely wrote exactly what God intended to be written and without error.
There is unity between the testaments even though there is diversity. The unity comes from the fact that Scripture is unified in its redemptive plan as it unfolds progressively throughout history and time.
There is a "fuller meaning" when it comes to Scripture or the sensus plenior. What this means is that the authors of Scripture did not exhaustively know what they were writing about. It's only through later divine revelation that their writings were expounded upon. What they knew was true but not the final word on the subject. God did not disclose all the details at once. Thinking back to Genesis 3:15, even the gospel then was minimal even though true. Through the covenants, we come to know more about hat God was doing. Again, revelation is progressive.
Grammatical-historical exegesis needs to be set inside the bigger biblical canon. It's not enough to just know the local situation. You must know prior and after the local situation to see where revelation was in the past and where it was going in the future.
Interpreting Scripture According to What It Is
(1). Scripture Is A Word-Act Revelation - this is God's own interpretation of His redemptive acts
(2). Scripture Is A Progressive Revelation - that is, God's redemptive acts happened over time thus His revelation happened over time
Michael Horton says that most biblical theology is the one that is redemptive-historical-eschatalogical. Scripture has an end in mind as well. Therefore, all of Scripture must be interpreted as it relates to the whole.
Putting Together The Canon: The Three Horizons of Biblical Interpretation
In regards to the covenants, we must understand each one in its own context. But then we must ask what came before it and what came after it.
(1). Context, Context, Context
(a). We must consider the textual horizon or the immediate context. Using the grammatical-historical method of interpretation begins here but does not stop here.
(b). We must consider the epochal horizon. We must interpret these texts in light of where we are in God's unfolding plan of redemption. Where are we in progressive revelation? What came before this? What came after? This is why we see later authors adding to what has been already stated. They are not arbitrarily interpreting or applying texts. They are adding to the fuller meaning and we must take that into account when dealing with any text.
(c). We must consider the canonical horizon. We must see the unity of all Scripture.
To be biblical in our theology and reading of Scripture we must then use a grammatical/literary-historical-canonical method of interpreting Scripture.
One of the ways that God has glued together the epochs of Scripture is through the promise-fulfillment motif. This is tied to the covenants which are promises. Thus, through the covenants we see God's unity and diversity in the redemptive plan. We see the promises God made and their fulfillment in Christ. The culmination of this redemptive plan is in the New Covenant and what Christ has done for us in finality in the final state.
(2). The Nature And Importance of Typology
Typology has an intertextual framework whereas allegory has an extratextual framework. One is rooted in Scripture, the other is not.
Typology is symbolism rooted in historical and textual realities.
Typology is prophetic and predictive and thus divinely given and intended.
Types are repeated and fulfilled in Christ. Adam, Noah, Abraham, Israel and David were all types of Christ who was the fulfillment or anti-type. He perfectly did what they all failed to do and they all pointed to Him.
Christ is the true Israel and by virtue of our union with Him we become the Israel of God and thus receive the new covenant promises made to Israel/Judah.
Types always have a lesser to greater quality about them--a fortiori.
Types had a limited scope and timespan. When they were fulfilled in Christ they had their telos. There is a legitimate discontinuity between the old and new.
Friday, August 19, 2022
BOOK SUMMARY: COUNSELING THE HARD CASES - CHAPTER 7 - BIPOLAR DISORDER
NOTEWORTHY QUOTES:
A careful assessment allows us to connect with one another
in a loving relationship, get accurate data, and begin to develop a clear
direction for counseling. We cannot begin to reframe symptoms, behavior, heart
issues, motives, and the formative influences into biblical categories if we do
not know what they are.
It was not our place to undermine the medical regime he was
placed on or to overstep our role as pastoral counselors.
A large part of good counseling is helping counselees see
that at the root of psychological problems are theological problems. No one can
have a proper view of self without a proper view of God.
Proverbs 20:5
We often waste energy on rabbit trails, focusing on problems that are not at the core of transformation and heart change.
One’s past, although influential—it is not determinative.
While sin is clearly involved and at the core of any
problem, legitimate suffering needs a compassionate ear.
Our goal is counseling is threefold: (1). To get the counselee
to see God’s character and compassion through the lens of Scripture; (2) to get
the counselee to see himself and his problems as God does; (3) to get the
counselee to feel God’s conviction and comfort as he peers intensely into the
mirror of His Word.
It’s hypocritical to tell a counselee to trust God while you
lean on your own skills, effort and rehearsed Bible knowledge. Sometimes more Bible
knowledge only beads up on the hard heart, and prayer is often the only way to
furrow the soil so the Word can take root.
Proverbs 28:13
Wednesday, August 17, 2022
BOOK SUMMARY: SHEPHERDING A CHILD'S HEART - CHAPTER 1 - GETTING TO THE HEART OF THE BEHAVIOR
Sunday, August 14, 2022
SERMON: MALACHI 3:5-6, GOD'S LOVE FOR JUSTICE - PART 3 - THE JUDGMENT OF THE LORD